I'm wondering whether or not I should continue gaining.. or wait until university. I mean.. I don't know, I've just been hesitant because I want to gain with someone.. and I'm worried that if I get fat, I won't be able to get a boyfriend. *sigh*
My mind is confused.
Help, pl0x?
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You gotta gain for yourself. Thats what it is in the end. If you are worried about not being able to get a boyfriend sit down and think for a minute. Do you want somebody who wont like you because of your body? If you like your body fatter and they wouldnt, why would you want that person?
ReplyDeleteWe all go through these periods of doubt and discouragement. But you just gotta fight through it and realise gaining is about you and only you. If you can only gain if you have somebody there then you need to consider who you are gaining for.
I think you DO want it for yourself, in the long time Ive known you, its easy to say that. However you do need to work hard to make yourself see that anybody who wont like you fatter, doesnt deserved your affection, because they only see your body. I can understand the need for somebody who is attracted to you physically, but often times thats not what a relationship is about, as you know.
So I'd say dont give up on gaining entirely, but if you wait till college that's understandable. Just ask yourself can you be happy with your body completely if you don't gain right now?
My personal advice is go for it now, and see how you like it. Just go for it with a fuck em all attitude man. Thats the way to go :-)
The amount of work you have to put into putting on weight, you could easily lose it again if you wanted to go for the kind of guy who's all about the looks.
ReplyDeleteBut, would you relly be happy with that kind of guy, and what happens if you're witth them nd further down the line find you really want to gain again?
You say that you want to gain with someone, and that you want a boyfriend. Could those 2 conceivably be the same person??
I would suggest 'live for the now' - you want to gain now, then gain now. If later you find trouble getting a boy, you can lose the weight again.
Be happy with your body Tony, there will alays be someone else who is happy with it too!
...and, while you may get fatter, I'm not sure you'd ever get to the point where you'd be so fat as to limit your boyfriend options (apart from removing the very shallowest!)
ReplyDeleteDear Tony--here's how I see things as someone who's been around a long time...I've watched "newbies" who go on and on about how they want to gain, but only in a relationship. They get a partner--who is attracted to someone twink sized. The "secret gainer" then breathes a sigh of relief and porks out, at which point the partner kicks him to the curb because---gasp! The partner is only attracted to the twink sized. Then the newbie wipes away the tears, joins a gym and diets and cardio-izes himself back to twink size, only to start the cycle over again--boyfriend--gain--kick to the curb--diet--boyfriend...
ReplyDeleteSee, if you ARE plump, big surprise--you will attract someone who finds "plump" a good thing, and quite likely, "plumper" even better.
If you want a boyfriend who is turned on by your getting fat, believe me, you're using the wrong "bait" by being skinny.
Having said that, I agree with earlier posts--you need to do this because it makes you happy with yourself. Few things are sexier than someone who is self-confident about himself.
Now--go eat a cookie, and stretch that wifebeater (lol--I had a partner who bought me one that had "boybeater" printed on it...)
Well, you've got one fan right here. Drop me a line, buddy.
ReplyDeleteDude, have you seen the comments on your vids? Everyone thinks you're sexy. Just do whatever you want, and guys will still be begging to be with you.
ReplyDeleteI've been on and off sites like beefyfrat for ages. I'm 19 now, in university, and I had a boyfriend (up until about a week and a half ago). He wasnt at all into gaining, but I was still slightly on the larger side (a lot more than you are now).
ReplyDeletedont worry about restricting yourself, you only restrict your options when you go to extremes. ive stayed in what is medically considered a "healthy weight" for the past two years, and except the comfort eating weight after my recent break up, i intend to keep that. but i find that keeping reasonable lets you stay open to the more reasonable members of both the gainer and the mainstream LGBT community. x